We all carry baggage – suitcases full of childhood traumas real and perceived. When one persons trauma bumps into another persons trauma a mini explosion happens…”Boom!” Sudden anger, hostility and unkind words can fill the room and no one even fully understands what happened or where it came from!
It isn’t all that unusual to find ourselves in a situation when all of a sudden we are finding ourselves reacting with way too much energy
to someones words or actions that just trigger that short fuse. Our job in these times is to try to pause, take a step back and try to see where inside of us these feelings are coming from? With a little space and a few deep breaths we can then come back with a more normal reaction. Later, when we are alone, we can review what happened and try to trace back where the heck those feelings originated.
“Your triggers have something to teach you about yourself.” ~Panache Desai
“Our job is unconditional love. The job of everyone else in our life is to push our buttons.” ~ Byron Katie
It almost made me a little nervous to write this e-blurb because I know all too well how life goes. I could be writing this article and feeling pretty good about myself, that it has been quite awhile since I had my buttons pushed. Yes… I’m doing pretty good with that.
We all know what happens next, right? I’m going to go to work and be serenely going about my day… and then all of a sudden..wham there it is! Button pushed! Emotions engaged! All systems go!
Well, at least when it comes and that happens I am lucky enough to come to Unity in Naperville where we get tools for our tool kits for times like that!! Keeping my serenity tool real close!!
Yours in Peace! Carol Gadbaw
